ReaderCon 2012: Filipino Fridays (4) – Books and Friends

Filipino Friday

It’s time for another Filipino Fridays post! I can’t wait for ReaderCon 2012, and it’s only just a week away! Aren’t you excited?! I particularly love the topic for this post: friends! Friends found through a common passion for books are just a whole new level of special, don’t you think? This post is all about them! Here’s the prompt:

Books and Friends. We will have book discussions hosted by several book clubs during the ReaderCon, so to prepare us for that, let’s talk about books and friendships and book clubs. Are you a part of a book club? If yes, what made you join one? What’s your favorite activity that you have with them? If you’re not a part of one, will you consider joining one? Why or why not?

Or if you’re not (yet) a part of a book club, do you have friends who share the same passion for books as you do? Do you have a “bookish” best friend? If yes, tell us about them! How did you become friends? What’s your favorite memory with them?

I’m going to try connecting all my answers in chronological order so it will be easy to understand. But first, the obligatory introduction story…

*cue nostalgic music, preferably with an acoustic guitar or a piano* 

Not until fairly recently, I enjoyed books by myself. It was fine at first, since I’ve been reading alone, growing up, but it’s really hard to gush about a book when no one is there to understand. 

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I was kind of an oddball in my younger years since everybody else would just play or watch TV (which I also do, just not that much) while I become best buds with the school librarians. Looking back, I was such a geek! Still am, actually. I thought it was normal and that bookish people were rare. Aside from being lonely (which I didn’t know I was), it was really hard to know which books were good! Since I loved buying books with no restraint whatsoever, my parents decided to let me buy books from my own allowance, which made me cut back on book expenses and rely on the library supply. The books there were good, but there were always new ones coming out in bookstores that take years before they get added to the library collection (like the Harry Potter books, which I eagerly awaited the release of). Having limited connections to anything book-related, I was forced to rely on book covers and blurbs when deciding the next book to read.

Okay, let’s quit the drama thing and move on to 2010, when I joined Goodreads! I just lurked around, mainly using Listopia and Recommendations for my reading needs, so nothing much happened and I was basically still just a loner. Then I joined the book club I’m currently active in, GR-TFG. It’s short for Goodreads – The Filipino Group, which is a hub for Filipino readers all over the globe. TFG started having regular monthly meet-ups this year, and I finally got to join one last April, when we were discussing Jane Eyre. Needless to say, this is my favorite book club activity. I got to meet so many people who love books as much as I do, and suddenly a whole new world opened up, and so did a realm of numerous possibilities! This is a photo from the July book discussion of Kazuo Ishiguro‘s The Remains of the Day:

GR-TFG F2F7: The Remains of the Day by Kazuo Ishiguro
(c) Tina Matanguihan

I got the courage to explore new genres, and I actually had an idea of what’s good and what’s not, thanks to my fellow TFG members’ recommendations. Meeting people of all ages and genres is such an awesome experience that I just feel really lucky to be a part of this book club. Furthermore, the friendships I made keep the reading experience somehow more enjoyable. I love having new friends, and I’m thankful to my book club, and books, the root of it all, for providing me with that. 

As for “bookish” best friends, I do have a lot. All of my high school best friends love to read, but they don’t blog about it or anything, and it’s not really something we discuss in earnest like in a book club. I have to thank my friend, Jenine, though, for introducing me to the Hunger Games series. She recommended it to me and lent me her books even before it got famous (hipsters, much? haha). I’m going to refrain from putting our group photo here because it’s too embarrassing – oh wait, I found a half-decent photo! Yay.

(L-R) Charelle, Jenine, moi, Oona

Charelle is my soulmate for all things geek (we could ramble about Star Wars, Doctor Who, Misfits, Sherlock, EVERYTHING for hours, and laugh together for even longer). She last read and cried over The Fault in Our Stars. I remember her mother loves books too, and gives me books for Christmas and birthdays! Jenine owns A LOT of these historical romance novels that her mother bequeathed onto her or something, and she also loves reading young adult novels. Her mother reads a lot of those too, which is why she gets to read a lot of them in the first place. I love borrowing books from her because she’s updated with the cool recent ones. Both Jenine and her mum insisted I read Cassandra Clare‘s books (which I haven’t gotten around to doing… yet). Oona reads mystery-thrillers, and she and her siblings read A LOT of them. Deep inside, though, I know she gets all kilig reading romance too. That girl. (The fun thing about your friends not blogging is that they don’t know if you talk about them LOL)

My college best friends read a lot too, but because it’s college, I don’t get to see them doing much of it. I only fully realized that they love books too when Christmas of 2011 came around. We began a tradition of having annual Christmas tea parties (I wasn’t allowed to go home late that time), and we were surprised when we discovered that we all gave each other books! We even asked the waiter to document this event. Kind of embarrassing, in retrospect – what with gift wrapper strewn on the tables and all – but what the heck.

(L-R) an alien, Ingrid, Yong, Claude

Ingrid’s also into sci-fi, particularly the classic sci-fi ones written by authors like Ray Bradbury (she made me read any of his works, and I picked this). Yong is sort of a literary-type person, and he made me read Blindness by Jose Saramago. I remember his Christmas wishlist had Carlos Ruiz Zafon’s Shadow of the Wind in it, but I gave him Perks of Being a Wallflower instead, heh. Claude loves fantasy, especially books with fairies and magic in it. She practically forced us to give her Zombies vs. Unicorns! Lol jk. (It was actually Yong’s gift.)

This has been a pretty lengthy (and graphics-heavy!) post, but it just goes to show how reading, though a predominantly solitary activity, can bring people together. Dave Kellett once said, “A book is like a dream you’re borrowing from a friend,” but I’m going to add to that by saying that “A friend is like a dream you’re borrowing from a book.” I’m very thankful for what books and friends have done to me, and my life’s certainly richer, more interesting, and more fulfilling because of that. 🙂

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19 thoughts on “ReaderCon 2012: Filipino Fridays (4) – Books and Friends

  1. Hi Alexa! I can relate to the feeling of being a loner when it comes to reading because when I was young and so into Nancy Drew, I felt that somehow most of my friends just couldn’t understand when I talk about clues and spies and detectives. With friends on TFG and Goodreads, I’m actually glad to know that I am not exactly the nerd-est person on earth and that it is absolutely normal for me to gush, rant, and rave about a book with them. 🙂

    • Hi Lynai! Oh my gosh, I love Nancy Drew! The library I frequented when I was a kid had rows and rows of the yellow hardbound stuff, and I just kept on borrowing and borrowing! (See, if it hadn’t been for Goodreads I wouldn’t have met people who were into Nancy Drew too, like you!)

  2. Yay. I’m so happy that you showed up first at the Jane Eyre discussion! I was too flustered to talk to people then, but I’m glad that was your first discussion. 🙂 And here’s to more discussions (and palengke meet-ups and pizza-eating days and movies) for us! 😀

    • Incidentally, I showed up there first because it was in Ortigas, so yay! I wasn’t able to talk to many people actually, pa-shy effect pa ako, haha! Here’s to more bonding time! 😀

    • I guess birds of the same feather… Really are the same birds AHAHA jk! Saramago is amazing 0__0 I haven’t read Seeing yet (I haven’t even watched Blindness, as in the movie version) but grabe the impact! He’s really good. I had to rest for a few days after reading Blindness because I had to recuperate from all the thinking, haha!

      • Siyempre I am biased, haha. I have only read three of his novels and I am slowly collecting his other works. I only read him at least once a year so that I will always have something to look forward to (and para hindi rin maumay).

      • Once a YEAR? Oh my. Pero yeah, I understand that. I do that more on TV shows than books, though. Spacing it out so I won’t run out of material to watch or read! Haha.

      • Blindness is a dystopian novel. You might want to check out 1984 (very serious), Brave New World (so-so), and Never Let Me Go (sniff, sniff).

      • Oh, I read 1984 (I started with the group read but didn’t talk much sa forums because I’m shy… HAHA) and ALAVETTTT I finished it mga March ata because I had to rest a but each time but it was so good! I think I have a thing for dystopian novels :)) I was planning to read Brave New World but it’s so long…

      • I was walking around NBS yesterday and I saw a copy, and it was thick! I didn’t buy it, though. Nagtitipid pa, hehe. Maybe that’s it? But if it got thicker because of the essay, that must be a very long essay indeed :))

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